So, yeah, it was rough for a couple of days, saying no to the constant requests for snacks between the 5 o'clock hour and the 6 o'clock hour, but we got through it and my kids ate so much more at dinner. And more variety. Avalon now eats BROCCOLI! Of course she requires 50 shreds of cheddar cheese on each bite, but I'll take it because we now have a vegetable in the mix.
But yesterday, for some reason, during school pick-up, as Avalon was eating an applesauce left over from her lunch at 5pm (school let her before I arrived), she asked for a snack. A SECOND snack, since there was already one in her hand. When I calmly replied that we don't eat snacks anymore and she mysteriously already had one in her hand, ULTIMATE MELTDOWN ENSUED.
I mean, literally, this girl melted into the backseat of the car as I drove home, and continued on for a good 1/2 hour of kicking and screaming.
I'm learning with my daughter that if she has a set plan in her head and things deviate even the slightest, she can't handle it with maturity yet. And of course that is understandable, she is FOUR. So, most times I try and either give her plenty of notice that the plans have changed or will change, or I try and be flexible with the family plans if it means we can accommodate her a bit and still keep everyone else happy.
But for something like this new no snack rule that seems to be working well for everyone, especially her, I definitely wanted to stand my ground and it was hard to foresee it coming when her tantrum hit full force in a matter of milliseconds.
I mean, really? KID, you are eating something as you ask for a 2nd snack!!! When I offered to make dinner early if she really was that hungry, she replied with I don't like dinner! So, all reasoning had gone out the window.
Recently Hy posted a piece about being patient with her boys as they tried new things and learned their independence. Right now, it seems like it would be so much easier to stand and wait if Avalon was trying new things (as slow as she may be). But instead she is having a hard time accepting things if they are different from the plan she had imagined, and I am having a hard time foreseeing her plans in enough time to help her through it positively.
Maybe this is a growing pain she has to learn....maybe this is a growing pain I need to learn. We both seem to be strong-willed. But we're doing it together with as much love and understanding as we can. Some days are better than others.
And it is hard to see her struggle in this way.
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