When she comes to me and says, Gwynn said she never wants to play with me, ever again!,
I don't know what to say. I mean, deep down as an adult with experience I know it will smooth
over and they will be friends again because 4 year olds don't operate on forever,
but that won't help in a time like this.
No, I don't know what to tell her to mend her little heart. Because in her mind, forever feels
as real as the word sounds. I struggle with the It's ok and let's talk to her tomorrow and
let's forgive and be understanding for tomorrow's a new day, but really,
when not much of it is sinking in through her tears, I go to something I know will help.
frozen yogurt.
I mean, how can it NOT help turn a day around?
The sprinkles! The gummy bears! The marshmallow topping!
And time together spent, just the 2 of us.
As we left she said giggling, I'm still mad at Gwynn,
but she skipped out of the store and the weight was lifted.
And yes, they made up at school the very next day.
They shared a muffin for breakfast.
Well played! I so do not look forward to this kind of news coming home with my sweet girl.
ReplyDeleteYou are so right! Frozen yogurt fixes everything. As does time spent with her *very* best friend in the world -- her mama. :)
ReplyDeleteThe "so-and-so" said they aren't my friend is heartbreaking, isn't it? You know it's the biggest deal in their world. I find that a hug and some extra attention does wonders so heal that broken heart.
ReplyDeleteOne of my friends gave me some very good advice for school-age children. Never fight your kids battles with the parents. While the kids will forget their beef and move on, the parents will remember and hold a grudge. While we haven't gotten to that stage of the game yet, I'm filing that little gem away for future use. :)
You're a good momma. It's hard for me to see you being so hard on yourself a few posts ago. There things you do right far outweigh your imperfections. I've never met a person who grew up truly loved and supported and turned out bad. You love and support your children day after day, and that will make all the difference.
I'd go out on a limb and say that probably your listening ear was the rock star in that day ... but I can't argue with the froyo having helped! :)
ReplyDeleteBest solution ever! And best mama, too!
ReplyDeleteMy boys have yet to deal with this stuff. But lately it seems like I have so many friends with little girls who have these same issues. Is it just girls? My heart will break every time my little girl has a friendship problem. Thank goodness they make up just as quickly as they break up though.
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